Writing tip : Ask yourself why?

 Multiple writers send out samples of their work and ask for comment. The writer expects compliments. Yet, criticism is received. This can be both good and bad. The focus for you, the writer, must be:

What are you asking for?

Is it to improve your writing? 

While writers may hope all feedback helps them improve, honest readers know they walk on eggshells when they express what they see as faults in the written word they have read. Readers assume you, the writer only want praise. And, loads of it.

This presents a conundrum. Bad prose will result in fewer sales. This inflicts greater sadness to the writer after the lack of praise.

For me the analogy is like Brussel sprouts.  I like them. Majority don't. Should I say so if thus predict the answer to be received will be a negative? Probably not. Should it be so for writing?  I think not.

So, you're the writer. How do you approach this?

Consider that the reason you're asking for honest feedback is that you're still learning to be a successful writer. Ask any bronco rider: Do you expect to get tossed to the arena dirt? The answer: yes.

As a writer, do you expect to be loved by every reader?  

If the bronco rider learns with every ride, shouldn't the writer learn by every critique?

The answer: yes.

Does pride blunt the learning experience? Yes, but only if you let it.

Take every reader response in stride. Weigh it. If a reader can find fault with you as a writer, why can't you as a writer find fault with the reader. Yes, you can. But, be objective. 

Be in control of what you write. If your words have unintended consequences, learn to be more precise. If your words strike a chord, but less than you expected, amplify with a sharper focus.

It's the interchange between writer and reader that strikes a harmonious chord.

Only by interacting can the writer find the common niche. The writer's and the reader's world, as expressed by the word, is enriching and better if in sync.